Where’s your blog, dude?
So like, three years. Almost to the day. What a wild fucking ride. And the past month alone has been…. let’s just say, Don’t Stop Believin’. Where was I the past few years? I guess I found healthier ways to process my innermost shit than verbally vomiting it all over the internet. 😉
Anyway. They say finding the right medication can be life-changing.
Oh. THAT’S what they mean.
I was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago. I am now on meds for Anxiety (fuck you anxiety) and ADHD (finally!). Hole. Lee. Shit.
Shout out to my (virtual) friend (I’ve never met or been brave enough to say hi to) over at ADHD Alien for helping me self-diagnose what many years of therapy and 3 1/2 years of therapy school totally missed!
My prescriber says my brain is running on all cylinders now. I just need to learn how to not run them all, ALL THE TIME.
Anyway, I’m not here to brag about meds. I’m like growing as a person. And it’s uncomfortable. Good uncomfortable, but still.
I’m extending a (metaphorical) olive branch to Cat and Seth. And I was trying to reflect on “what went wrong?” I’m like, there was a time when we didn’t hate each other, wasn’t there? What happened?? And having trouble remembering because healing through grief and trauma is messy, and realizing I’ve been gas-lighted so much that I’m doubting my own experience. Like… things were getting better, right? Weren’t they??
So I tried to work backwards, which is what I always do when I find my thoughts derailing. (See also: ADHD). I work back in the conversation to the point that I veered off and pick it up again. (See also: ADHD superpower!)
Long story short, working backwards, I found myself here to look for clues. When I found this post and started to cry. Yes. There was in fact a time where I was hopeful about growing a positive co-parenting relationship.
Four years ago. Oh. Right after my first quarter of grad school where I got a crash course in sorting through your own baggage! Where did that go?? Part of that healing is what finally led me to feel ready to try dating. But what happened?!?
Right before the pandemic, Seth and I went to mediation. How the fuck did we get from that happy post to mediation? I think I’ve pieced enough together to have a fairly decent idea. But the reminder that I did have hopeful feelings towards them at one time (even if there was still a healthy dash of snark, too) made their absence now all the more pronounced. And sad.
Not long into the pandemic, my perspective shifted, and I realized that our squabbles didn’t feel very important given the drastic shift in context. Recent developments in my personal life have offered me another crash course in communication and human-ing. Now I’m extending an olive branch to see if we can find something like that again.
Ok. Time to go play with my tarot cards and go to bed. Because, apparently, I do that now.